A car named love

I have heard and experienced too, that everything turns rosy when one falls in love. The proverbial rose tinted glasses, rosy dreams, pink roses, and the blush on the lover’s cheeks! I have read many books on relationships, human psychology, have observed people, studied human behavior, have worked with centers that do ‘paid listening’ for the broken hearted and have listened to many stories of love getting bruised, with ennui, neglect and emotional asphyxiation. True, that everything looks pink in its initial stages, but turns blue with carelessness, extra carefulness, neediness, unfair expectations, suffocating possessiveness and at times, just for no reason at all.

I have written some motivating articles on the intricacies of relationships in various journals; perhaps involuntarily taking on the mantle of being a ‘so called expert’ on the subject. Well, even after all this I cannot vouch for being ‘the expert’ in relationships, because the fact is that it is difficult to figure out people and something as fragile as “feelings”. Human mind is a never-ending mystery, and so is the heart.

It amuses me when after reading some of my articles on relationships, some fresh faced romantic ask me about workings of the ever puzzling thing called love. Some of them even asked about tips on ‘fool proofing’ the relationships. I looked at the scrubbed skin and the dreams infused eyes and felt so inadequate. So, helpless.

How can you explain relationships, foolproof it or save it from some of the inevitable damages We all have had our own share of heartbreaks, and despite having read about many stories and rules about relationship, being warned by well meaning friends, having been ‘lectured’ by them, we cannot vouch for ourselves (for all those who have objection to this, I confess that I cannot vouch for myself) that we will not make foolish mistakes again; when we fall in love ...again. Maybe not the same mistakes, but some new ones. Once again our heart might break, and the same tears would flow on the pillows at night. But one can never be safe and sure, in relationships.

It is more or less like driving. You can never predict what would happen on roads, despite safety measures. Relationships also don’t come with a guarantee to secure us from the pitfalls. Say, for example: You know the ABC of, how to drive the car. That is the Accelerator, Break and Clutch. But when you take out the car, can you ever predict how you will be suddenly overtaken, how you will have to have exceptional control over your braking at sudden junctures, and despite your caution some absent-minded driver who forgot to apply brakes at the right time might bump you from behind, and it would damage your car. With a carelessness of spilt seconds, you might meet with an accident too. Driving needs quick reflexes, sharp and active mind and some knowledge of rules and we might be having all this in our faculties, yet no one can predict what will happen on the roads.

Same rules apply to relationships too. We can never be fully prepared for love, relationships and accidents. However, all I can say is that we must be relaxed at the steering wheel of relationship, while maneuvering its courses. Cross our fingers, but be ready for unforeseen circumstances too, while taking our car out on the roads again. Above all, we must enjoy. While the joy ride lasts.